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Honestly, I don’t need help to get my boyfriend back right now (I did once) - but I’m betting that you do? I see and hear it all the time. A woman gets dumped by her boyfriend - or she dumps him and then realizes that it was a major mistake - and then all you hear is “I need help to get my boyfriend back.”

There are pages and pages on the Internet filled with advice on just how to do it too. All sorts of them!

The GOOD ones all have the same first piece of advice for those who need help to get their ex back too. It’s a piece of advice that MOST of us don’t want to hear - but there is a TON of validity to it.

Time - purely and simply - it’s time. Taking some time away from your ex is the single most important step you can take. Your cry for help - your “I need help to get my boyfriend back” scream IS being answered. Are you listening? Or are you one of those people that asks for advice and then stops listening when you don’t hear what you want to hear? Or one of those people that ask for help and then, when they learn that it might be hard - you don’t listen?

My purpose is not to badger you or make your life more difficult - you already have enough of that by your desire to get your boyfriend back. You’re tired, you’re lonely and you’re maybe a little desperate.

Usually when you hear those calls for help, those “I need help to get my boyfriend back” (or girlfriend, for that matter), you really do want to help. Most humans are compassionate. We know that mistakes get made in even the best of relationships every single day. Most of us have been there at some point in our lives. Advice is easy to give - taking it is a little harder.

When we’re sad, lonely, tired and desperate - we often don’t think things through clearly enough to make sound decisions. That’s why it’s the SMART people who DO ask for advice. Who DO say something like “I need help to get my boyfriend back.”

We need someone who is a bystander, an unbiased opinion, to help us find the way. So we need to learn to listen - really listen to the advice we are given - and then follow through on that advice.

Think about it. If you’re searching the Internet for advice or help to get your boyfriend back and 20 sites that you visit tell you to take some time - step back and evaluate the situation (no matter how they actually word it) and ONE site gives you some tricky-dicky way to get him back in your arms tomorrow - what would be the SMART thing to do? Who is giving you advice that you want to hear and then who is giving you advice that is sound and true?

Bottom line for all of you who are screaming, “I need help to get my boyfriend back”?

Step back - think it through - and follow the advice of someone who tells it like it is.

With compassion, forthrightness and TRUTH. If you’re ready to really listen - to have your call, “I need help to get my boyfriend back” answered then it’s time to take a leap of faith and visit with TW Jackson and The Magic of Making UP.

If you truly want to get back together with your ex, you have to do a bit of soul searching. You must be totally honest with yourself. You have to decide if you and your ex get back together it will truly make you happy, and you won’t wind up down the same road that caused the breakup in the first place. It’s always easy after a breakup to only think of the good times. It’s important that you try to be completely objective and think of both the good and bad times.

In reality, there are a few relationships that are unworthy of saving. If you and your ex spent more time fighting than you did doing something good and fun, then perhaps you should consider moving on. f they were physically or verbally abusive, it probably wasn’t a healthy relationship. If they were mentally unstable, you probably are better off without them. If the relationship overall was a good one, and they weren’t abusive, and they were of sound mind, the following should help you and your ex get back together.

Pestering and pushing your ex isn’t a good idea. If you try to constantly get in touch with your ex; whether its by phone, email, text message, or stalking them you’re going to do more harm than good. They will see this as a sign of desperation. This could actually push them further away than bring them closer to you.

Don’t argue, beg, or plead with your ex about your past relationship. It’s easy when you and your mind are all alone. Your mind manifests all sorts of “wrongs” that you may have done. Even when your ex broke up with you they may have gave you reasons why. Now, you’re probably beating yourself up over them. You probably wish you had never done those things. The past is the past. This is the present.

If you get it in your mind that the relationship is currently over. You can’t go back in time, though you probably wish you could. Concentrate on what is going on now. The only thing worse than obsessively contacting your ex is to beg or plead with them. Make promises how you’ll change, etc…This won’t help you and your ex get back together at all.

If you back off, give them some time, and live your life, you’ll be doing yourself a big favor in more ways than one. You’ll probably become more desirable to your ex, because you’re allowing them to think about you and miss you. You’ll also be helping yourself to live a happier, more fulfilling life too.